New year new you. Whether by choice or by circumstance, the new you feels a lot like the old you only minus the love of your life, and the affection between you, and the two incomes you shared, and the best friend you came home to. Some people would say get a dog, My purview is a bit more pragmatic. I would say dont leap into another commited relationship but do acknowledge that this is a chance to work on yourself. Improve your circumstances or your personal wellbeing or those little things that maybe your ex was right about but you didnt notice or pride didnt allow you to notice. We all have blind spots especially where self is concerned.
For me personally, becoming better at communication, and more open to the ideas and opinions of others is something she suggested I could work on. That is one reason this blog exists. What better way to learn to communicate, and to take constructive criticism, than to open your own views to the criticism of others, especially the faceless masses that are the internet. So far its been fairly gentle. thank you for that.* One other thing I could work on is I have been neglecting the gym.. I even paid for a membership which I was excited about for all of three months before I quit going alltogether. There is benefit in exercise.. endorphins and feel good chemicals and what not, also the benefit of losing some of the weight gained when I began to stress eat.. and divorce will make you stress eat. carbs pasta pizza, energy drinks.. you cant fill the void but it can be numbed for a time, but there are consequences to this decision and the gym and exercise are a good prescription.
With the coming of the new year it is my hope to spend the year making myself better and not just trying to hold on through it. To quote a podcaster I have recently started to listen to. "Life doesnt care of you are sad. Sad things will happen to you in life, so be sad but do the things you need to do anyway. it sounds heartless but at its core feels accurate. be sad but go to work because bills need to be paid, and maybe your utility company will understand your significant other left you and give you a month free.. maybe.. but its not a given and you can not count on it, so you go to work and make money so you can be sad with the lights on. I hope we all see the old year out. I will be more than happy to make sure it does not return. In so doing, may the new year give us new opportunites for growth , enlightenment, and enough laughs to at least begin to make up for the tears.
Happy new year everyone. And may we all make it through February more or less unscathed.
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